Turnips and polar splits for healthy status in your tribes: Upcoming Transformation Workshop of May 10, 2012
We’re going to start with the turnip piece, which I’ll explain below. It’s a root piece for confidence, self-worth, money, and manifesting resources – and also for the vibe you put out that tells people how to treat you.
We’ll clear some polar splits, such as fairness/cheating, care/harm – tackling such root splits opens your ability to gain healthy status without triggering conform programs. It’s all about getting rid of cost.
First, the turnip piece. Money is a structure we use to manage the exchange of resources. Back in the cave, if you wanted something from someone else, you would trade goods or services. What if you wanted a turnip, and couldn’t use money to get it? What if you couldn’t get one from a friend, but had to go to a farm and negotiate with the farmer who grew the turnip?
Just like sherlocking, or exploring your access to the fridge at 8, this kind of trick is a great way to discover your subconscious programs.
- Would a stranger give you a turnip?
- Why would they give you a turnip?
- How can you have the value to obtain a turnip?
The world gives you many things without cost. You have air to breath, and people who act as mirrors to show you your programs, and experiences. What if you allow the world to give you more? Allowing the world to give you more establishes an innate, independent confidence.
As you’d expect I have another discovery trick to find out what the real programs are, which is always an adventure. Clearing these programs opens your life to more – and allows the world to give you more than turnips.
A polar split occurs when choices are blocked by your subconscious. Sometimes you know the options exist, but can’t seem to allow yourself to make the choice. Sometimes the splits are so intense that you can’t even perceive an option exists. One clue to a subconscious polar split occurs when you can only see two choices in a situation, often in the form of ‘a or not a.’
For example, if you feel stuck in a job you don’t like because you need the income, you might only see the choices of endure or quit. When quit isn’t a real option financially, the result is a trapped experience. Another example would be when you can only see limited choices in how you interact with a person. You might have a family member who is troublesome, and the only options you can see are endure or start a problem in the family. If you feel that tackling the problems with the person would cause too much hassle or conflict with the family, you may feel you have to put up with an abusive interaction.
We use a specialized form of Campfire to clear polar splits.
When abusers are hurting it can trigger sacrifice programs that hurt you: Transformation Workshop of May 10, 2012
This month we tackled some huge polar splits that are integral to giving you choices in your behaviors and reactions. Any time you tackle a split that interacts with abuse, it requires admitting that anyone is capable of being abusive at times – it’s not going to work if you don’t clear all the sides of the split. No one likes to admit that they sometimes lash out at people – even people they care about.
Remember we’re focused on releasing limiting programs, so I’m not talking about healthy models here. I’m talking about fixing what goes wrong.
The first set of splits was in the abuser dynamic. The split for the abuser is dangerous/victim. It’s easy to see how an abuser is dangerous. It can be harder to understand how an abuser could feel like a victim – I’m not doing bleeding heart here, I’m talking about how your subconscious will react. If the abuser is in pain, re-enacting their own abuse, then your subconscious programs may kick in to try to comfort, protect, and even conform to their pain programs.
Sometimes abuse victims feel guilt or shame because they didn’t ‘fight back.’ It all depends on what program operates deep in that primitive part of the brain. If a subconscious program is invoked to comfort the abuser because they’re in pain, the victim will not fight – they can’t – they’re doing comfort. It can be disturbing when your subconscious is operating an agenda that feels very different than what you think – and that difference often results in harsh self-judgments. It can help release those harsh self-judgments when you understand what happened.
The response invoked by the abuser depends on two sets of programs: which program the abuser is in on their side, and which program gets triggered by that. It’s also a polar split. (When the programs activated are a polar split, there is no place of power or choice.)
When the abuser is on the dangerous side of their split, the other person will usually do submit (a victim program.) Sure, some people are able to fight, if that is their programming – the goal we’re always going for is to be in the position of choice – because we want the response that is strategic and best, which could be fighting, and could also be something else. If you have a knee-jerk reaction to fight then you’re just as much in reaction as the person who sacrifices – it’s always about being able to choose how you behave.
When the abuser is in the victim program, most often the other person will go into sacrifice programs (also a victim program.)
When you tackle a model like this the goal is to get to that place of choice, so you’re not reacting from programs at all. In a model like this, the whole works has to be cleared, from all the sides and for all the splits.
One of the interesting first responses is that people are reporting deeper and clearer perceptions. After all, if you’re in a program your ability to take in information is limited – and usually you can’t tell it’s happening. Suddenly people are noticing that they missed information, and are able to change that reaction.
This is already long so I’ll do the short version for the other splits. Obviously I can write pages – and there is much more in the recordings. Now you can order the CDs or downloads from the new download store J Keep in mind that I’m referring to fixing problems, and there are healthy models for these dynamics.
The split for the broken hero is sacrifice/broken. The broken side is dissociative with the self, producing perceptions like fundamentalism, delusional idealism, and judgmental righteousness. All these block the reception of information and block strategic thinking. On the other side, the splits are submit/wounded. When the hero is in the broken programs, the ‘victim’ will also go into disassociation. When the hero is in the sacrifice program, the ‘victim’ will go into submit. It sounds odd to refer to the other person as victim when we’re referring to a hero model – this is the broken hero. An example of how the hero dynamic can be broken is codependence, which restricts or enables their victim. A healthy hero model is based on respect.
The villain model is harshly judged, because the tribal programs contradict imposing your own will. Your subconscious prefers conforming for survival. A healthy villain model has a healthy alpha/leader, which empowers people to contribute and feel valuable. A broken villain model is the split: domineering/destroyer. In the broken model the victim also has a split: submit/broken.
As you can imagine, clearing all this was quite the Campfire 
And with all that, we still did the turnip piece.
To catch your subconscious program, notice your very first reaction: what if someone gave you a turnip?
That first reaction reveals a lot about your subconscious programs. It was fun to identify the programs revealed, and important to clear them. We had a challenging and interesting night.
Your subconscious both rejects & craves status, interfering with your finances: Money One Day Intensive of April 28. 2012
A few highlights from Saturday’s One Day Intensive Workshop on Money.
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When I was a teenager I had a very simple method for deciding if I’d buy something like a pair of jeans. I’d figure out how many hours I had to work at my minimum wage job to buy the jeans, and whether I’d be willing to work that many hours to have them. Life was much simpler when that decision equation didn’t include mortgage, retirement savings, guessing when my kids would have a growth spurt that required new shoes, and whether or not the roof would have to be replaced in a few years.
Adding all those complicated elements to your decision equation can’t address the real issues of cost, because you don’t know about the programs in your subconscious that interfere with your finances and your choices. The discoveries on Saturday were revealing – and as so often happens, explained so much about why life is like it is. I think that’s the fun part – when you identify programs, it is so obvious how they are affecting your life. That’s a huge relief, because it also explains why you haven’t been able to make effective change until now – you cannot override your subconscious will willpower or decisions.
Priorities create polar splits
You have many values. Your values about what is right or wrong, and how things ‘should be,’ affect how you experience everything in your life.
Prioritizing your values is a typical coping mechanism for dealing with life. For example, two of your values might be:
Be responsible for my bills and obligations;
Help people.
You may have a job to be responsible for your bills and obligations. You’d have very different choices about how you could help people if you were wealthy and didn’t have to have a job to pay your bills. If you quit your job to do charity work, you’d have to apply to the food bank, and you’d be the one needing help.
Decisions about how you spend your money and time are part of life. The problem occurs when one value is considered more important than another. When you prioritize, it’s almost automatic to assign a ‘weight’ to each of your values, to allow you to make decisions. You may feel that supporting yourself, by earning a living, has to take priority over helping people so you don’t end up on the ‘needing help’ list. That is totally reasonable. What you don’t realize is that the prioritizing creates a subconscious conflict, because it devalues your other values. Your cognitive brain understands this kind of priority – your subconscious does not.
This one is pretty simple: instead of prioritizing, organize. The difference is the ‘weight’ you assign to the values you sort. If you allow all your values to be equally important, then you can organize how you satisfy all your values and protect yourself from subconscious conflict. To allow yourself to honor all your values, clear the polar split formed by past prioritizing, which created the chasm between the ‘important values’ and the ‘not as important values.’
Both craving and rejecting status: the rebel
Rebel reactions occur when tribal requirements can’t be met, or keep changing. Rebel is a Freeze and Hide limbic reaction, characterized by withdrawal and rejection. When a rebel reaction occurs, the attitude towards status in the tribe would be: ‘I don’t care what they think’ and ‘I don’t care what other people call important.’
That sounds reasonable until you realize that a reaction like this creates subconscious interference with your ability to strategize. If you don’t care what others think, you aren’t go to be very good at understanding how to communicate in a way that gets you what you want. You may want to problem solve, and find it’s harder to come up with solutions and harder to put solutions into effect – rebel reactions are self-sabotaging – and it’s not what you think that matters when you’re in reaction.
Rebel reactions block abundance because they reject the support of the tribe. If you wonder if this is happening in your life, notice these signs:
- Just when you get your finances under control, your car breaks down and there’s an expensive repair bill.
- You have been very careful with your money so you have a slush fund for your vacation, but your partner decides they ‘have to have’ something you consider an indulgence.
- Whenever you see something that seems like a great deal, there is always a hidden cost.
- Friends you care about dearly seem to be very expensive at times – who picked this restaurant anyway?
Replacing coping mechanisms with strategy
We looked at the various coping mechanisms people use to deal with conflict situations around money, such as staying in a job they dislike for security. I identified both the coping mechanisms and how to get out of the coping mechanism to a place of choice and strategy.
Here’s a brief reminder:
| Reaction | Coping Mechanism | Resolution | Polar Split |
| S&F/Serve | Integrity | Identify actual requirements; identify changes; eliminate assumptions | Security/choices |
| RA/Comply | Adaption | Identify values in conflict and resolve conflict | Security/identify |
| F&H/Rebel | Rejection | Identify values in conflict and resolve conflict | Status/identitySupport/rejection |
Discovery of Hidden Programs Around Money
In the same way that your access to the fridge when you are 8 years old will identify hidden programs around money, there are ways of revealing what is going on at that subconscious level. We used an exercise around priorities to identify what is forbidden around money. We used an exercise around receiving money to discover subconscious reactions to money and sabotage programs. We used an exercise around requirements and assumptions to discover blocks in perception and allowing more to come.
Seek – Get – Lose
You’re familiar with ‘stuck in seek’ programs caused by tribal conform programs. Many of the exercises revealed a disturbing variation of the stuck in seek programs, which included a program that required loss of resources. Definitely a good one to clear – there’s not much value in working for resources if your programs cause you to lose them!
The most common feeling from this kind of program would be ‘I can never get ahead.’ It’s a good thing we clear these nasty blocks.
Conclusion
The end of day clearing had to be condensed. That means it’s high intensity clearing in a short period of time. It’s always important to rest a bit when it’s something that intense, so if you’re using the recordings make sure you’re aware of the effects. It may be short, but it’s packing a big punch.
Obviously this is just a glimpse of all the discoveries of the day.
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What if you were loved for who you really are? Transformation Workshop of June 10, 2010
A Q&A night is always a blast because we end up using tools that haven’t come up in a while, and tackling issues that are very concrete in people’s lives. Learning the tools in a workshop doesn’t make it obvious how to apply them to specific situations. On a Q&A night people present their ‘live situations’ and I identify the underlying issues, and we do clearing on the spot.
We had a great variety of questions to keep things interesting. Everything from the ‘where’ of manifestation, to aches and pains, with clearing as we went. As expected, people present felt that the whole night was designed for them – as always happens, other people’s questions will tackle things that are issues for you.
Many of the questions and issues boiled down to conflicts about who one might become with healing and personal growth. You may be aware of how much your child selves struggled for approval and acceptance of who you really are. That struggle makes it very hard for the subconscious to accept any idea of change in self that might cause rejection or loss of love. Since the subconscious clings to known patterns, it obstructs any change that goes outside known patterns, because it might lead to rejection or loss of love.
So much self-talk is negative. No wonder the subconscious fears judgment and rejection, when what goes on in your own head is so much about judgment and rejection. We did lots of clearing to allow peace with who you actually are, and we’ll do more next month.
The best part is that moving towards true peace inside yourself manifests as joyful experiences outside yourself. Removing the conflicts on the inside makes life better on the outside.
Since the ‘Christmas tree lights’ tool for removing interference came up a lot, next month we’ll focus the Transformation Workshop on removing blocks to being the person you want to be. It becomes a nice segue to the Avatar work.It will be a ‘towards the goals’ type of night.
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